Mindset/Mental Health

Mindset/Mental Health, Motherhood/Baby

Moms, It’s Time To Get Comfortable With Making Mistakes


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Part of being a mom is messing up, and that’s okay. In fact, it’s way better than okay.

I’ve done so many things wrong.

The time I took him out of the car and looked down and saw that his seat wasn’t even buckled in. I thought, so irresponsible, how could I let that happen?

The time I had him in the baby carrier while cooking and hot oil splattered up so close to his face and I thought, what are you doing having him so close to the stove?

The time I sat him up on the floor because I wanted to snap a cute photo, but he fell backwards before I could catch him and he hit his head hard on the ground. I thought, that was so selfish and careless

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Mindset/Mental Health

Leaning In to Vulnerability


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The refusal to be vulnerable is exhausting AF.

I spent so many years of my life not willing to be vulnerable. I didn’t realize it at the time. To me, I was just being strong.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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Don’t show those big bad emotions.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Smile & be positive.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Don’t let anyone worry.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ You’ll cause stress. Don’t show your struggles.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ You don’t need help.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ You shouldn’t feel this way.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

It’s a defense mechanism. Self-protection, really. If I can guard myself (and others) from these “negative” emotions, if I can ignore them, they’ll go away and I won’t have to feel them. It’s better, safer, easier, we tell ourselves.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Mindset/Mental Health, Motherhood/Baby, Self Love/Body Image

Learn to love your messes


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Your friendly reminder that this is what’s going on much of my days over here…⁣

For such a tiny human he makes a lottt of messes.⁣

The thing is, we post what we choose to post. Do I choose to post cute, well-put-together-looking baby pictures (a lot)? Yes! And I’m good with that. Are most of our days also puke-covered, food-crusted, and diaper-changing-disaster-filled? Ohh yes.⁣

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Family/Relationships, Mindset/Mental Health, Motherhood/Baby, Self Love/Body Image

Motherhood Unfiltered: A raw look at the fourth trimester


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A couple weeks after giving birth a friend told me, “You’re making this look easy…this is false advertising!”⁣⁣
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And she’s right. Becoming a mom – especially the first days when everything is unknown and different, and you’re all exhausted and emotional – isn’t easy. We chose to spend the first 5 days alone, and it was a complete blur yet somehow I remember it vividly.⁣⁣
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It wasn’t just about cute newborn pics. It was raw as heck. Emotionally, physically, everything-lly.⁣⁣

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Mindset/Mental Health

Sometimes things just need to suck


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Don’t brush off what you feel just because you know you’ll get through it, it’ll be over at some point, or someone else is worse off than you. That’s a really quick way to completely invalidate your experiences.

How often do you hear people say things like…

I’ll be fine.
It’s no big deal.
I shouldn’t complain.
It’s nothing.

I hear them all.the.time. And I catch myself saying them too.

What I know for sure is that often times it’s not nothing. And you’re not fine.

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Mindset/Mental Health

Time to throw up a low-key middle finger


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Sometimes you just need to throw up a low-key middle finger…

To other people’s expectations of you.
To your own negative self talk.
To anyone who wants to bring you down.
To things you’ve been doing just to please other people.
To doubters, haters, and judgers.

There’s always going to be someone who doesn’t support you, doesn’t understand you, or doesn’t want you to succeed.

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Mindset/Mental Health, Motherhood/Baby

Can you tap into your inner baby?


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For as long as they keep coming, I will never stop soaking up these moments. As a newborn it was all the time, and now only occasionally…. usually it’s just us, early mornings, when he falls back asleep nuzzled up on me.

My heart broke a little this morning thinking about the fact he will do this less and less as the months go on. Things are changing so fast. Every step forward, each milestone he hits, I look back and it’s a flash. Time is flying.

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Mindset/Mental Health

Perfect is boring


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Perfect is boring. Perfect is also impossible. Trying to achieve something both boring and impossible sounds like a pretty epic waste of time.

Don’t you think?

No one is perfect. It just doesn’t exist. You can spend your life trying to seem perfect…

Never admit to a mistake or a struggle, don’t let anyone see you sweat, always smile even when you’re hurting, keep your shit together no matter what the cost, please everyone around you by being whatever they need you to be at all times.

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