It's time to stop showing up for everyone but yourself. You're worthy of so much more.
It says that once you become a mom your needs don’t matter anymore. That there’s no time for you, and that everyone else comes first now. It says you have to be constantly exhausted, depleted, stressed, and overwhelmed. That you can’t take time for yourself, do things for yourself, or buy things for yourself. It says the more burned out and run down you are, the bigger medal you receive. And if you’re not feeling that way, you’re doin’ it wrong. It says you’ve got to do it all and look good while you’re at it. Go, go, go, give, give, give, you’re not doing enough.
Is being a mom hard? Yes. Are there going to be chaotic, messy, stressful days and seasons of it? Absolutely. But that doesn’t mean that every day needs to be a struggle where you’re barely treading water as you try to make it til bedtime. The more you subscribe to the belief that your needs don’t matter or that you have to prove yourself, the harder motherhood becomes. And what’s often happening is that shame and perfectionism are getting in the way.
Burned out because you’re trying to do it all (and still feeling like it’s never enough)
Craving you-time and trying to remember what self-care even is
Feeling inadequate about your body, your role as a mom/partner, your work choices
Bored, lonely, feeling like you’ve lost parts of yourself since becoming a mom
Trash-talking yourself, obsessing over flaws, trying to show up perfectly all the time