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Mindset/Mental Health

Leaning In to Vulnerability


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The refusal to be vulnerable is exhausting AF.

I spent so many years of my life not willing to be vulnerable. I didn’t realize it at the time. To me, I was just being strong.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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Don’t show those big bad emotions.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Smile & be positive.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Don’t let anyone worry.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ You’ll cause stress. Don’t show your struggles.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ You don’t need help.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ You shouldn’t feel this way.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

It’s a defense mechanism. Self-protection, really. If I can guard myself (and others) from these “negative” emotions, if I can ignore them, they’ll go away and I won’t have to feel them. It’s better, safer, easier, we tell ourselves.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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