embrace the suck

Mindset/Mental Health

Leaning In to Vulnerability


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The refusal to be vulnerable is exhausting AF.

I spent so many years of my life not willing to be vulnerable. I didn’t realize it at the time. To me, I was just being strong.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣
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Don’t show those big bad emotions.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Smile & be positive.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Don’t let anyone worry.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ You’ll cause stress. Don’t show your struggles.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ You don’t need help.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ You shouldn’t feel this way.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

It’s a defense mechanism. Self-protection, really. If I can guard myself (and others) from these “negative” emotions, if I can ignore them, they’ll go away and I won’t have to feel them. It’s better, safer, easier, we tell ourselves.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

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Mindset/Mental Health

Sometimes things just need to suck


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Don’t brush off what you feel just because you know you’ll get through it, it’ll be over at some point, or someone else is worse off than you. That’s a really quick way to completely invalidate your experiences.

How often do you hear people say things like…

I’ll be fine.
It’s no big deal.
I shouldn’t complain.
It’s nothing.

I hear them all.the.time. And I catch myself saying them too.

What I know for sure is that often times it’s not nothing. And you’re not fine.

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